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To begin with I'm 23 yo rn and was living in an apartment alone up until a few months ago.
A 26 year old girl moved next to my apartment a month before I moved out. She ringed my bell one day and asked for my Wi-Fi password because it would take some time for her ISP to connect her.
Here's where the problem begins: while I talked to her at informal 2nd person singular, she kept referring to me in formality plural, as if I'm some older guy, meanwhile I'm clearly younger (I still go to uni and she knew it). She was talking to me as if I was hitting on her and she was giving me a signal that she's not interested.
It made me feel like shit, as if I was some creepy guy hitting on her and she was trying to shut me down. I still let her use my Wi-Fi for a long time even tho it made my net lag..
After that, when I bumped on her in the stairs she insisted on greeting me in plural and was always awkward and had a cringed out face as if I was causing her discomfort for the split second she had to lay her eyes on me.
And she wasn't an awkward person, not even a month in and she threw a party and some friends came over to her shitty apartment and one of them was a super tall BBC dude. Meanwhile I never even invited friends to my place throughout the 6 years I've lived by myself.
My mom says I'm overthinking this and she was just trying to be kind. I feel like she was probably not acting like this consciously, she most likely instantly forgot about the interactions, yet I am here making this thread.
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(18-09-2025, 06:49 PM)MVP Wrote: i already said, rӏ is built different
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Do weird grammar things (like formal/informal/plural etc.) make conversation more stressful for non-NTs?
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(30-05-2022, 02:46 AM)Honest Wrote: Do weird grammar things (like formal/informal/plural etc.) make conversation more stressful for non-NTs?
define NTs. everyone who dislikes you or is more successful than you?
lol
(18-09-2025, 06:49 PM)MVP Wrote: i already said, rӏ is built different
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(30-05-2022, 02:49 AM)insufferable_Kant Wrote: (30-05-2022, 02:46 AM)Honest Wrote: Do weird grammar things (like formal/informal/plural etc.) make conversation more stressful for non-NTs?
define NTs. everyone who dislikes you or is more successful than you?
lol
In this context, it would be people who aren't neurotic/autistic
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(30-05-2022, 02:46 AM)Honest Wrote: Do weird grammar things (like formal/informal/plural etc.) make conversation more stressful for non-NTs?
I mean there's always the risk you are gonna say something that might come across as something different, but I don't think weird grammar has anything to do with it.
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(30-05-2022, 02:59 AM)Honest Wrote: (30-05-2022, 02:49 AM)insufferable_Kant Wrote: (30-05-2022, 02:46 AM)Honest Wrote: Do weird grammar things (like formal/informal/plural etc.) make conversation more stressful for non-NTs?
define NTs. everyone who dislikes you or is more successful than you?
lol
In this context, it would be people who aren't neurotic/autistic define neurotic/autistic
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(30-05-2022, 05:20 AM)TowersBelowTheEternalUmbra Wrote: ![[Image: CvLy9tY.gif]](https://i.imgur.com/CvLy9tY.gif)
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(30-05-2022, 05:25 AM)kathisterima Wrote: (30-05-2022, 05:20 AM)TowersBelowTheEternalUmbra Wrote: ![[Image: CvLy9tY.gif]](https://i.imgur.com/CvLy9tY.gif)

I came back and actually read it. It seems like she was delibarately trying to exasperate you and waiting for the moment for you to get angry.
If you got angry it would've been a situation in which she would've gaslighted you as well, making you look like the crazy one.
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(30-05-2022, 06:13 AM)TowersBelowTheEternalUmbra Wrote: I came back and actually read it. It seems like she was delibarately trying to exasperate you and waiting for the moment for you to get angry.
If you got angry it would've been a situation in which she would've gaslighted you as well, making you look like the crazy one.
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(30-05-2022, 02:08 AM)kathisterima Wrote: Here's where the problem begins: while I talked to her at informal 2nd person singular, she kept referring to me in formality plural, as if I'm some older guy, meanwhile I'm clearly younger (I still go to uni and she knew it). She was talking to me as if I was hitting on her and she was giving me a signal that she's not interested. Sounds so weird when you explain this European thing in English. What language was this?
(30-05-2022, 02:08 AM)kathisterima Wrote: It made me feel like shit, as if I was some creepy guy hitting on her and she was trying to shut me down. I still let her use my Wi-Fi for a long time even tho it made my net lag.. You shouldn't have done that.
(30-05-2022, 02:08 AM)kathisterima Wrote: And she wasn't an awkward person, not even a month in and she threw a party and some friends came over to her shitty apartment and one of them was a super tall BBC dude. Meanwhile I never even invited friends to my place throughout the 6 years I've lived by myself.
My mom says I'm overthinking this and she was just trying to be kind. I feel like she was probably not acting like this consciously, she most likely instantly forgot about the interactions, yet I am here making this thread. You got cucked and she lives in your head rent free.
You should've given her the password only in exchange for sex or at the very least an invite to one of her parties.
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let me analyze this in a cold psychopathic way.
first of all, never give things for free, except if its a cigarette.
this WHORE used u, saw u as an inferior ugly bug
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lol at people telling OP what he should've said
when you have a 'yes man' mentality and stuff like this is sprung on you, the result will always be you get cucked
learning to tell people to fuck off/saying no is such an essential skill. but it's one that needs to be honed since childhood, otherwise you will be a yes man forever
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y did u cuck out n give her ur wifi password? i also had insentient foid neighbors wanting my wifi password n i just told them i dont have router, i use cable
lol at u
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