[Aspie] How do people have more than 2 children?

[brocode]

define "fully love"

It's about the intimacy of family

with 3 children it feels chaotic, not connected, it feels, like I said, that it becomes a "horde" of children where you just give them resources and at least one of them will succeed. With 2 or 1, you can actually fully focus on both of them and give them all the support they need and make sure they succeed regardless, or at least do your genuine best. 

Connection = everything theory

dont you think this kind of idea stems from an insecurity of one's child failing or a fear of the inability to parent them?

In Jewish families, for example, it is encouraged to have a lot of kids and it is encouraged to notice the behaviorial patterns of kids from a very young age -- are they bold and confident, are they shy and think a lot, are they more scientific and inquisitive, and based on such observations, parents are encouraged to train and nourish their children accordingly.

it doesnt mean they are less loved or successful, just different and unique in their own way.

i gave this as an example