I cannot fathom why anyone would want friends outside school/college/work except to g

[lonelyjak]

I'm more idea oriented.

I like creating stuff. Making Business plans, investment ideas, producing music, writing things, making short Films (not tiktoks), researching something way tooo fucking deep, analyzing data and inferring solid points, like for example, some random biotech firm's quaterly reports over the last 4 years and the very niche rare disease drug they are developing, etc.

I don't keep these to myself, I enjoy sharing my ideas and thoughts and talking about these things with a lot of people, even normies.
They generally are curious and usually ask more.

in my experience (which is limited because I dont socialize anymore) this is difficult to do in the US because everyone perceives everything as a competition or trying to one up somebody/look smarter than somebody. I think theres tons of lowkey jealousy in the US. tbh its kind of true though, the US is full of two types of people:

1.those who are trying to flex/show off how smart/successful etc they are

2.people who are sick of others trying to flex/show off how smart/successful they are

oftentimes these two types of people overlap. I feel like american society is really really confused and juvenile in a certain way

any other burgercels please pitch in and add your two cents. I dont want to seem like im trying to give a fully accurate representation of burger society here, this is only my experience

I see, is that why it’s very hard to make friends in the US?
My friend who moved to California keeps telling me people are “fake-nice” there all the time, not everyone, but most, and they are generally not direct about how they feel.

possibly, I have bad luck with friends in general so I cant generalize to others

yeah what your friend says sounds accurate. I think california is particularly bad for this, its not as bad in other parts of the country BUT its still a thing though