getting girls is not about (literally) looks, money, status

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what's OP? im assuming that I don't have it because getting girls has been more than impossible

being the main character within a circle/wider community

usual components: at least passable looks (no, gigachads don't automatically have it, they get girls with their looks alone and often struggle to dominate the scene if all they have is aesthetics), aura, iq/humor, personality, status (which comes with the aforementioned qualities)