it might be the case that my lack of memory limits me, like a computer RAM

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powerful males have elite working memory

Working memory definitely really useful in many situations mainly having to do with socialization(caring about and remembering names) and work efficiency/competence, but not necessarily required to have elite intelligence/sentience. I'm a 160 IQ and my working memory is just above average

Chimpanzees have.far greater working memory than humans, it's not a hard requirement for elite IQ:

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