women dont have it in them to approach

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a young redhead cold approached my bro at the club last week and sat next to him. she asked him to dance, but quickly left after he said no

last time a girl approached me it went terribly 
it was a concert, she appeared to me out of nowhere with her friend. i was just neutral, she asked questions, stared at me a lot and acted weird asf, she didnt say anything that demonstrated interest, so i gave her a drink and went away back to my group 
after a month or so we matched on a dating app, she said that she liked me but then i disappeared, she was mad at that and assumed i had a girlfriend, i said to her i didnt have one and that she didnt say anything that would make me think she had an interest. that was surprising to her. she replied that she didnt say anything direct out of fear of rejection and that shes shy. how the fuck does that work? maybe zoometes are retarded