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im pretty sure people who talk a lot irl are energy vampires - MVP - 06-01-2026
they drain your energy if u listen to them
but not with me
i avoid them like the motherfucking plague
RE: im pretty sure people who talk a lot irl are energy vampires - MVP - 06-01-2026
Yes, people who talk excessively, especially in self-focused, negative, or dramatic ways without reciprocation, are often labeled "energy vampires" because they leave you feeling drained and exhausted, though some argue it's about setting boundaries rather than labeling people. These individuals often monopolize conversations, constantly vent, seek excessive attention, and offer little emotional support back, making interactions feel one-sided and depleting your emotional reserves, according to sources from the BBC and Verywell Mind.
Signs of an Energy Vampire
Lack of Reciprocity: They talk about themselves but don't ask about you or listen to your issues.
Constant Negativity/Drama: They're always in crisis, complaining, or creating drama, needing you to fix their mood.
Emotional Dumping: They unload heavy emotions without checking if you're available or able to handle it.
Self-Centeredness: Conversations always revolve around them, their problems, or their wins.
You Feel Drained: After talking, you feel tired, irritated, anxious, or emotionally depleted.
Why It Happens
Unintentional Habit: For some, it's a learned behavior, a toxic mindset focused solely on themselves.
Seeking Empathy: They target empathetic people who are willing to listen and help.
What to Do
Set Boundaries: Limit time spent with them or politely disengage when conversations turn draining.
Manage Expectations: Recognize you can't fix their problems or change their behavior.
Prioritize Yourself: Protect your own energy by choosing who to engage with and how much.
While some sources suggest the term can be a way to blame others, the core idea highlights interactions where you consistently give more than you receive, leading to personal depletion.
RE: im pretty sure people who talk a lot irl are energy vampires - MVP - 06-01-2026
My girlfriends dad is like this. He talks about the most pointless shit in the most drawn out way imaginable. Something that you could say in two short sentences he manages to drag out into like 30 minute mostly one-sided conversations.
RE: im pretty sure people who talk a lot irl are energy vampires - friedrich_neet - 06-01-2026
you are not wrong...
RE: im pretty sure people who talk a lot irl are energy vampires - hollow - 06-01-2026
(06-01-2026, 10:01 AM)MVP Wrote: My girlfriends dad
RE: im pretty sure people who talk a lot irl are energy vampires - friedrich_neet - 06-01-2026
(06-01-2026, 06:05 PM)hollow Wrote:
yeah brutal asf i know
RE: im pretty sure people who talk a lot irl are energy vampires - anonomouslurker - 07-01-2026
they deifnitely are man
RE: im pretty sure people who talk a lot irl are energy vampires - Pajac_ - 27-04-2026
(06-01-2026, 10:01 AM)MVP Wrote: My girlfriends dad is like this. He talks about the most pointless shit in the most drawn out way imaginable. Something that you could say in two short sentences he manages to drag out into like 30 minute mostly one-sided conversations.
I was like "wait so someone is bragging, let's check this out and see what I can do about it." But nvm. Usual MVP LARP. Doesn't even sound like him since it's coherent and not full of grammar errors.
RE: im pretty sure people who talk a lot irl are energy vampires - Pajac_ - 27-04-2026
Very technically, I had a gf in high school.