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RE: How do people have more than 2 children? - hurt - 11-03-2023
(11-03-2023, 01:49 PM)10khitman Wrote:(11-03-2023, 01:22 PM)зайчик Wrote: they want a son so bad they are okay with having 4 daughters before him
Probably actually the case a lot of the time
(11-03-2023, 01:25 PM)зайчик Wrote: also, it’s not that much harder to raise multiple children of a similar age(11-03-2023, 01:27 PM)зайчик Wrote: i’d say up to 5 children is doable
It's not about the physical difficulty of success its about the quality of the connection you have with your children
it’s related, less stressed/overwhelmed = more opportunities to connect, also if they are similar age then there is no clear favoritism towards the youngest child
RE: How do people have more than 2 children? - Born2Mog - 11-03-2023
Yes legit
not gonna say muh "r vs k style reproduction" meme
But your (western) idea is tied to the legal fiction of romance which doesn't exist in traditional society (ex india brocode). The idea is focus on the relationships, because societal structure allows for it by alienating family connections from their traditional role as the #1 materially important avenue.
Traditionally families were large because they weren't there by choice, a large amount of people are needed because most relationships are weak at best or negative. + herd/clan strategy of survival. Incestous webs of connection like the wives of a ottoman emperor were what every single person. It's completely irrelvant if the wife/husband dislike each other because they don't have the option to leave + softened by having favorite children in proxy way (see esau and jacob)
this is why i hate tradcucks who rant and rave about destroying what is possibly the only positive feature of modern society while spending their life on discord eating the bugs.
similar as "social circle" versus small group of friends
If you look at psychology (normie meme but legit) with large family dynamics specifically it's pretty much the same.
ex. "black sheep", the punching bag incel friend/family member. Good chance of being a hardcore drug user. Parents virtue signal about "always having loved" "don't know why this happened" but r secretly relieved, they always disliked them, which is probably why they rebelled by injecting heroin in the first place.
sociologically speaking alot of variation, ex nonwestern large familes often more functional (if not desirable) because patriarchy
my mom only talks to one sibling and didn't cry when her mother died. She liked her grandma. Not like she dislikes the rest of the family, respects them and all but legit just never bonded all that closely.
RE: How do people have more than 2 children? - 10khitman - 12-03-2023
(11-03-2023, 06:39 PM)Born2Mog Wrote: But your (western) idea is tied to the legal fiction of romance which doesn't exist in traditional society (ex india brocode). The idea is focus on the relationships, because societal structure allows for it by alienating family connections from their traditional role as the #1 materially important avenue.
